The Art of the Approach...To Life

"The Approach" is one of the most popular subjects discussed in the online seduction scene. Its no wonder: How well you approach a girl, especially one you really like, will make or break the rest of the relationship. In fact, a relationship doesnt exist if you dont know how to talk to a girl from the very beginning. You can be the best guy in the world, a guy girls can only dream ofbut if you dont know how to make an impact and create a memorable impression, well, youll never talk to anyone.

But theres another approach thats not discussed nearly as much by relationship experts and bloggers, and yet its just as importantmaybe more importantas the step-by-step process of talking to a chick. Im talking about your approach to lifeyour mental handle on what comes your way, good or bad. Because if you dont know how to deal with rejection, anger, feelings of inferiorityall those negative feelings we all get at one stage or anotherthen your chances of dealing with women are going to be, well, nil.

Let me ask you something: What do you do when a woman doesnt want to talk to you? Do you go back to your friends, bitch about what a cow that girl was, what a crap bar this is, sulk all night? Do you send out negative vibes to people, so they dont even want to talk to you because youre so pessimistic? Do you vow never to talk to girls again?

Or do you take rejection in stride? Do you look at the girl as a challenge, at acceptance as something that wasnt meant to be? Do you see the bright side in not talking to the girl, as an open door to talking to someone better? Do you tell yourself, "Hey, its okay, her loss" and move on to the next girl, talking to her with energy and positivity?

Believe me, the second approach is a lot better than the first. Not only for yourself personally, but for your chanceswomen will see a LOT more in someone whos handled rejection well, who picks himself up and moves on to the next challenge, than in someone who quits, someone who bitches about life. Girls dont want quitters, they dont want guys who air dirty laundry and complain about everything. Doesnt matter how good-looking or rich you are; eventually your negative approach to life is gonna cost you.

What all girls want is a guy whos determined. He may have dealt with rejection, may have tasted defeat, even failed a number of timesbut it doesnt get to him. He plows on. He BELIEVES IN HIMSELF. Thats the kind of attitude EVERYONE wants to be around. Its a tide that lifts all boats.

Next time you go out, try to present an approach to life that says, "I love a challenge, I love talking to girls, bring it on!" Watch as your positive vibe is rubs off on people. I always say, Enthusiasm is contagious, so if youre making people feel better about themselves and improving thier approach to life, youre gonna reap the rewards. Your social network is gonna explode. Guys are gonna wanna hang out with you, GIRLS are gonna wanna hang out with you. And when youve got friends, even simple acquaintances, youve got people who really want to see you succeed. Theyre gonna be on the lookout for you; theyre gonna want to help you find a great woman.

Give it a shot. When youre energetic and cheering people up, people want to hang around you. GIRLS will want to hang around you; youll find you dont even have to try! It really can be that easy.

All it depends on is your approach to life.

Nowhow are you gonna deal with a challenge?

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James Brito regularly explores topics of attraction. Since 2000, he has helped thousands of men around build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get his free six-part audio mini-course, visit:

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James Brito is the author of "How to Be Irresistible to Women." His years of dating experience and international travel have tutored him in the art of meeting and seducing women the world over. His immersion in international dating circles brings forth a gritty, no-nonsense approach to dating and developing relationships necessary for the modern single man. Learn more about how to attract the woman of your dreams at: http://www.000relationships.comPetunia Blog79205
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